For several decades, I labored under the impression I could completely plan out my life. If I just set goals and worked towards them, I could have it all. Find the love of my life, get a college degree, generate abundance, buy a home and travel the world. I knew exactly how it was going to turn out.

What a shock to discover almost nothing went as planned.

It didn’t happen on the timeline I’d laid out, but instead followed its own course, unfolding years or even decades later.

I eventually found the love of my life (at age 48)…

As an eternal spark of Divine light, you chose to incarnate on this planet, at this particular time in human history. Perhaps like me, you were confused as a child, as you observed the broad spectrum of human culture and behavior.

There are joyous and connected moments.

There’s also pain and suffering, which truthfully, doesn’t make sense.

How easy for an empath to become entangled in everything around you. Feeling the intensity of millions of souls having a very human experience: anxiety, fears, hopes and frustrations. Sometimes it feels like waves crashing over your heart, mind and body. …

Throughout my life and spiritual journey, one energy keeps rearing its head over and over.


We all want it. And we know what it feels like to not have it.

Sometimes we use power to try to gain a sense of control when life feels chaotic and unstable. Power over feels like a pushy energy — pushing you, pushing others. Withholding equal standing so we can temporarily feel better about who we think we are, what we think we’ve achieved.

Relentlessly climbing an imaginary ladder, looking down on those ‘below’ and desperately trying to overtake those who are ‘above’…

If you’ve been on a spiritual path for some time, you’re intimately familiar with the cultivation of self-trust. Listening to your inner knowing, being an active observer of signs and synchronicities showing up in every moment.

We’re all faced with decisions every day. Most of those choice points are fairly benign, don’t have a huge impact on our overall life. Decisions like what to eat for breakfast (wait a minute, everything we eat over a period of time absolutely influences our health and wellness).

Okay, how about what to watch on TV? Oh yeh, a steady diet of fear-based or…

I come to, realizing I’m standing atop a tall tower. It isn’t solid, but instead made of wooden girders that allow me to peer down to the ground, many feet below. I try to walk forward but halt as a strong fear arises inside me. I take a deep breath and look over the edge, then wished I hadn’t. I have no idea why I am up there or how to get down safely. The fear is paralyzing.

Suddenly, I feel compelled to close my eyes — which makes no sense in my current circumstance, yet I follow my knowing…

Recently, I re-watched a classic film — Dances with Wolves. An epic tale of a soldier on the western frontier of what would become the United States, whose eyes are opened to the destructive nature of colonization. Throughout the story, you watch him set aside stereotypes and prejudices he’d been taught about indigenous tribes, to see them as not only fully human, but more advanced in terms of empathy, collective wisdom and resonance with the land.

As Kevin Costner’s character becomes fully immersed in the Sioux culture, he connects with an incredible woman. Upon their first meeting, she’s so distraught…

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We all have that day every year when the Earth completes a full revolution around the sun, returning to whence it came. And yet, for 365 and one quarter’s time, you’ve been learning, experiencing, growing and integrating. Life didn’t stop and neither did you.

Some people make a big deal out of their birthday; it becomes a month-long celebration. I was never one of those. As a matter of fact, for most of my adulthood, I resisted any attention at all because of what I viewed as an arbitrary calendar moment.

As an empath, in the past I often contracted…

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This is what I’ve learned…

I resisted going to therapy for a long time because of the stigma attached to mental health. I knew, because of the insurance system in the United States, my therapist would be required to assign a diagnosis.

I was nervous about how I would be ‘categorized’ and who would find out. Whether I would be judged as mentally ill and what that would mean for my future. I’ve long been diametrically opposed to a medical system that seems to focus on what’s wrong with people, instead of what’s right. …

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There is no cure

I sit down to write this, having returned from literally the hundredth visit to a medical doctor. You see, I live with a chronic condition which sends intense, persistent pain through most of my physical body, every day, all day long. Doctors call it fibromyalgia, a blanket term for a mysterious set of symptoms they cannot explain.

I manage this condition (to a point) with reduced stress, better sleep, food choices, getting regular massages and over the counter pain meds — to name just a few things in my self-care arsenal.

Yet, they only help temporarily.

The pain reaches such…

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As a human and spiritual being, you’re like a small twig drifting along in a massive river. Sometimes you can paddle and influence the direction a bit, but mostly you must simply let go, surrender to an energetic flow much larger than yourself.

Change is exciting, terrifying, desired, and stressful — all at once. Even small ripples in your daily existence can send us twisting and spinning off course. Big changes, well, those are another thing altogether.

Like the ending of a relationship or the beginning of a new one.

The loss of someone important in your life.

Deciding to…

Bevin Niemann

Intuitive Business Coach for Empaths, Lightworkers & Mystics | Co-founder of the 1 Million Empaths Global Community

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